Wednesday, July 27, 2011

Kaz + Desma

Where to begin? Desma contacted me in early May, looking for a photographer for her July wedding. I liked her immediately - perhaps it was because she has the coolest name ever, or maybe I fell in love with their story. They met as freshmen at Indiana University, he is from Japan, and she's from Chicagoland. They are such a beautiful couple! I love weddings where the bride and groom have been together for a long time. A wedding after you have been together for years is like a huge reward at the end of a beautiful courtship, and the beginning of the next big, beautiful journey. 


I loved the rings. I absolutely love that Desma has a gorgeous blue stone (I'm not sure if it was a sapphire or another gem?) as the showpiece of her ring. Gorgeous. 
There was some gorgeous window light at the Holiday Inn where they got ready...

I love these shoes! And Desma, your something old/borrowed/blue was incredible. I'm going to hint that Ayron should give me a ring like that for a future anniversary... :)
Desma's gorgeous dress was a Mori Lee...

I loved the corset back and the gorgeous beading!

Kaz & Desma opted to do a first look. I love it when a bride says she wants to do a first look! It gets some of the formals done with before the ceremony and you get to have that moment of seeing each other for the first time just to yourselves. I love how you can tell how excited Kaz is to see the beautiful Desma.

Desma! I can't handle you and your gorgeousness! 

This shot was taken right after the first look - I love how happy they are to be with each other. :) I love love!

I love this photograph. :) We stopped into the Indiana Memorial Union just after their ceremony and group formals to cool off, and this lovely moment happened...

Hello blue eyes! You are so beautiful, Desma....

 Desma + Kaz = models.

This gorgeous table was the first thing you saw walking into the reception, and it was so lovely!

I love this guestbook idea: pretty pieces of paper with sweet thoughts for the bride & groom.

Their mini strawberry shortcake tower was an amazing cake replacement. As a non-cake lover, I loved their alternative choice. (Plus they had tasty candy and brownies up for grabs that were irresistible!)

Why are you guys so cute!? 

Ayron and I actually stayed a little later than we had planned because the dancing festivities were so entertaining and fun. I totally wanted to drop my camera and join in! :)
Kaz & Desma, thanks for giving Ayron and I the privilege of documenting your love and your amazing day. It was all so beautiful, perfectly reflective of the two of you. :) 

If you want to see more of the wedding day, check out Kaz & Desma's slideshow below:

Friday, July 15, 2011

we are the canvas

The last time I felt like this, it was seven years ago. I was almost nineteen years old and I was reinventing myself. Until I met her, I had not experienced life in this way. I boarded that airplane with her in September of 2004, and I came back renewed and reborn four months later.

I was in Italy. I learned to cook there. I learned what it is like to be away from home there. I learned how to look at the world in new ways. I became a vegetarian there and learned the importance of a life goal list. I watched her mystery and beauty and longed to be imbued with the same qualities. I wanted to feel that shimmering gold of ambition inside of me too; I wanted to live every day in service of my dreams and hopes. I wanted reinvent myself to be a tapestry of all that I find beautiful in the world, to stack up inside of me all of the little moments of wonder and electricity that exist between human beings, and to drown in all of the wonder of this short time on earth. I wanted to radiate this quality, to be a beacon of possibility, to be a tapestry whose threads chant to any who would listen and make a meaningful connection.

<><><><><> The campanile, a regular fixture on the walk to school and life in Florence, and Via Cherubini 4, our old front door.
Me at Cinque Terre in Italy, September 2004, on the path to reinventing myself.
I had always loved to create things. I always drew, painted, sewed, and molded things out of clay. I had just never considered myself to be a canvas before I met her. I had never realized how in control of my life and my dreams I could be.

After I came back from Italy, I held onto that feeling of newness and power for a long time, but it eventually faded. It faded into what I began to perceive as reality. In this reality, I could dream, but there were larger goals at stake: I had to sing. I had to stay the course. My feelings of power over myself and my destiny faded into feelings of normalcy. I didn't feel as shimmering or as special. I was afraid. I was afraid of the mundane. I was afraid of unhappiness. I was afraid of solitude.

It is so easy to let fear take control of your life. Not that anyone wants to be afraid, but giving in to fear and apprehension are much easier than standing up to it and taking control and molding your own destiny. I think the reason for this is that to stand up and take control of your life, it takes risk. You have to be willing to try something at which you might fail, or for which you might fall a few times before you rise up and succeed.

I've been referring to my friend Elyse in this blog post. I think that Elyse, in a large part, made me who I am today. When I came back from Italy with her, I was changed forever. It wasn't just the experience and the knowledge that I had gained abroad. What I gained from Elyse as a friend was the ability to be the architect of my life. I don't think she ever used those words, but it is the power that she taught me.

A portrait of Elyse that I took in San Marco in Florence, September 2004.

When we were abroad or shortly thereafter, I seem to remember Elyse reading a book called By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept by Paolo Coelho. I know she loved it, and it has been on my reading list for the past seven years. This summer, I'm finally reading it.

I read one of the first passages, and I have become sort of obsessed with it.

   'You have to take risks, he said. We will only understand the miracle of life fully when we allow the unexpected to happen.
   Every day, God gives us the sun – and also one moment in which we have the ability to change everything that makes us unhappy. Every day, we try to pretend that we haven't perceived that moment, that it doesn't exist – that today is the same as yesterday and will be the same as tomorrow. But if people really pay attention to their everyday lives, they will discover that magic moment. It may arrive in the instant when we are doing something mundane, like putting our front-door key in the lock; it may lie hidden in the quiet that follows the lunch hour or in the thousand and one things that all seem the same to us. But that moment exists – a moment when all the power of the stars becomes a part of us and enables us to perform miracles.
   Joy is sometimes a blessing, but it is often a conquest. Our magic moment help us to change and sends us off in search of our dreams. Yes, we are going to suffer, we will have difficult times, and we will experience many disappointments – but all of this is transitory it leaves no permanent mark. And one day we will look back with pride and faith at the journey we have taken.
   Pitiful is the person who is afraid of taking risks. Perhaps this person will never be disappointed or disillusioned; perhaps she won't suffer the way people do when they have a dream to follow. But when that person looks back – and at some point everyone looks back – she will hear her heart saying, "What have you done with the miracles that God planted in your days? What have you done with the talents God bestowed on you? You buried yourself in a cave because you were fearful of losing those talents. So this is your heritage: the certainty that you wasted your life."
   Pitiful are the people who must realize this. Because when they are finally able to believe in miracles, their life's magic moments will have already passed them by.'

-Paolo Coelho, By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept, pages 8-9.

I find this passage remarkably inspiring. I want to live my life finding that magic moment and embracing it every day. Because life is too short to sit around waiting for miracles; God is in us, but we can't expect him to do all of the work for us.

I'm going to photograph my first wedding as a professional photographer tomorrow. I am anxious, nervous, and excited! While it isn't the first wedding I've photographed, it feels like it could be. I equate this nervous feeling to the feeling I get the day before a big auditon or performance. I just have to remember that things that are big steps in life always make people feel anxious. There is a part of me that is scared of being a wedding photographer because there is so much pressure; and yet I know I'm prepared and organized and that the reward of photographing those moments goes far beyond any small fears. I have to accept the invitation each day, including tomorrow, that allows me to perform miracles. And the miracle tomorrow is to capture this beautiful day and an amazing love in a way that can be remembered forever.

Elyse, I hope you are well. Even though we don't talk much, you continue to inspire me, and I know you always will. 

Thursday, July 14, 2011


When Brian posted his photographs on his facebook page, someone commented that he had basilisk eyes. I have to admit that I haven't ever seen a basilisk, but his eyes do look like the eyes of some mythical creature. Brian, you win the coolest eye color I've ever photographed award!

Aside from his cool eyes, Brian is an awesome choral conductor who is finishing up his doctorate at the Jacobs School of Music. I had the priviledge of photographing his amazingly adorable son last fall with him and his lovely wife.

It was a lot of fun doing his headshots. I often find that I want to talk to clients as much as I want to photograph them (which makes me move slow sometimes!). Brian and I talked about beer. Every so often, Brian and my husband get together and drink a beer or two, and I know Brian and his wife have a lot of appreciation for good beer. However, I do not. I don't know if it is just that I can't stand the bitterness or if it feels too filling, but I have just not ever come around to liking beer. I feel like I am missing out on one of the great simplicities and complexities of this world by not liking beer, whether it is just a cold one after a long day, or a complex beer that pairs well with cheese and other tasty food.

Brian assured me that he could teach me to like beer. I don't know if I believe him, but I am willing to try!

Now, on to the pictures:

See? Basilisk eyes.

Brian, your eyes even look cool in black and white!

Brian, it was a lot of fun photographing you! Thanks for giving me the opportunity. Hopefully sometime this fall you can teach me to like beer. :)

Tuesday, July 12, 2011


Since I started my business lat fall, I have photographed four Emilys. :) And I love them all!

This doe-eyed, gorgeous Emily is an undergrad voice major at IU. When I was a master's student there we were in Faust together. She was a total blast to photograph! She was so relaxed in front of the camera and I am in love with her eyes!
 Emily, you're so cute.
Like I said, adorable. :)

Hel-lo gorgeous! Look at those eyes! This is my favorite. Emily, you are so beautiful.

Emily, thanks for the privilege of photographing you! You are wonderful! I wish you all the best in your future.

:) Happy Tuesday!